Realising that I’ve no patience for or desire to get to know people who lack sincerity/integrity — it’s been emphasised in law school that, in that business, your reputation is important; you have to guard it and protect it; and, while I understand the reasoning why, I do scoff at that because you wouldn’t have to be so defensive about it if you’d only carry yourself with integrity and sincerity.
That sounds terribly preachy, doesn’t it? But I’ve a long, tangled history with deceit and artifice, so allow me this.
I opine that integrity/sincerity provide the backbone for passion/courage, and there’s a reason why I paired the latter two together, too — because I believe that passion is useless without the courage — and, to a measure, selfishness — to see it through and put it into active practice. Anyone can have passion, but not everyone has what it takes to take that passion and do something with it — and this is partly why I look up to musicians and writers so much, because they have not only the love for their craft but also the doggedness and selfishness and courage required to possess their craft.
(This is also why, when I call creative people I love and respect selfish, it’s not actually a negative thing.)
Anyway, as I said before, the two character traits I require, not only in a boy but in friends as well: responsibility (책임감) and sincerity (성의). As far as attraction is concerned, add onto that intellect, musical ability, and an adorable smile, and we’re golden. Ha.