three passages:

from “my mother’s sadness” in the history of love:


My brother and I used to play a game.  I’d point to a chair.  ”THIS IS NOT A CHAIR,” I’d say.  Bird would point to the table.  ”THIS IS NOT A TABLE.”  ”THIS IS NOT A WALL,” I’d say.  ”THAT IS NOT A CEILING.”  We’d go on like that.  ”IT IS NOT RAINING OUT.”  ”MY SHOE IS NOT UNTIED!” Bird would yell.  I’d point to my elbow.  ”THIS IS NOT A SCRAPE.”  Bird would lift his knee.  ”THIS IS ALSO NOT A SCRAPE!”  ”THAT IS NOT A KETTLE!”  ”NOT A CUP!”  ”NOT A SPOON!”  ”NOT DIRTY DISHES!”  We denied whole rooms, years, weathers.  Once, at the peak of our shouting, Bird took a deep breath.  At the top of his lungs, he shrieked:  ”I!  HAVE NOT!  BEEN!  UNHAPPY!  MY WHOLE!  LIFE!”  ”But you’re only seven,” I said.



She’s kept her love for him as alive as the summer they first met.  In order to do this, she’s turned life away.  Sometimes she subsists for days on water and air.  Being the only known complex life-form to do this, she should have a species named after her.  Once Uncle Julian told me how the sculptor and painter Alberto Giacometti said that sometimes just to paint a head you have to give up the whole figure.  To paint a leaf, you have to sacrifice the whole landscape.  It might seem like you’re limiting yourself at first, but after a while you realize that having a quarter-of-an-inch of something you have a better chance of holding on to a certain feeling of the universe than if you pretended to be doing the whole sky.

My mother did not choose a leaf or a head.  She chose my father, and to hold on to a certain feeling, she sacrificed the world.



Sometimes pages of the dictionaries come loose and gather at her feet, shallon, shallop, shallot, shallow, shalom, sham, shaman, shamble, like the petals of an immense flower.  When I was little, I thought that the pages on the floor were words she would never be able to use again, and I tried to tape them back in where they belonged, out of fear that one day she would be left silent.

three passages:

as i was reading never let me go again last week, i marked down three page numbers on the piece of folded paper i was using for a bookmark.  (i’ve probably quoted all three of these passages here before, but i felt like typing them up again.)

page 257:

"After the war, in the early fifties, when the great break-throughs in science followed one after the other so rapidly, there wasn’t time to take stock, to ask the sensible questions.  Suddenly there were all these new possibilities laid before us, all these ways to cure so many previously incurable conditions.  This was what the world noticed the most, wanted the most.  And for a long time, people preferred to believe these organs appeared from nowhere, or at most that they grew in a kind of vacuum.  Yes, there were arguments.  But by the time people became concerned about … about students, by the time they came to consider just how you were reared, whether you should have been brought into existence at all, well by then it was too late.  There was no way to reverse the process.  How can you ask a world that has come to regard cancer as curable, how can you ask such a world to put away that cure, to go back to the dark days?  There was no going back.  However uncomfortable people were about your existence, their overwhelming concern was that their own children, their spouses, their parents, their friends, did not die from cancer, motor neurone disease, heart disease.  So for a long time you were kept in the shadows, and people did their best not to think about you.  And if they did, they tried to convince themselves you weren’t really like us.  That you were less than human, so it didn’t matter.”

-  Miss Emily

page 267:

"When I watched you dancing that day, I saw something else.  I saw a new world coming rapidly.  More scientific, efficient, yes.  More cures for the old sicknesses.  Very good.  But a harsh, cruel world.  And I saw a little girl, her eyes tightly closed, holding to her breast the old kind world, one that she knew in her heart could not remain, and she was holding it and pleading, never to let her go.  That  is what I saw.  It wasn’t really you, what you were doing, I know that.  But I saw you and it broke my heart.  And I’ve never forgotten."

-  Madame

page 277:

"I keep thinking about this river somewhere, with the water moving really fast.  And these two people in the water, trying to hold onto each other, holding on as hard as they can, but in the end it’s just too much.  The current’s too strong.  They’ve got to let go, drift apart.  That’s how I think it is with us.  It’s a shame, Kath, because we’ve loved each other all our lives.  But in the end, we can’t stay together forever."

-  Tommy

it doesn’t matter how many times i read this book; it still gets me in the gut every time i read it.